The purpose of this website, first and foremost, is to tell the story of how we came to the place where we have decided to adopt a child & to help us resource the adoption. For the whole Pre-story, see Motivation to Adopt below.
This site was instrumental in bringing our MUCH loved son, Jack North Campbell home!
He was born in Champaign, IL on July 9, 2013. He was 6.5 lb and 20 inches long. He is home and we are adapting and loving life as parents!
Aaron and I got married in 2006, and at the time we were both on staff with the Rockford Master’s Commission. What incredible years those were! Gotta give a shout out to all RMC & FocusOne alumni–we love you all dearly.
Currently, Aaron is part of the media department at Rockford First (with an incredible team!) and I am a embarking on being a full time mom, with some writing and speaking on the side.
Thanks for checking out our site! We pray you will be encouraged, challenged and inspired.
Aaron & Erin
Motivation to Adopt
I had an ovarian cancer scare in 2002. Thankfully I was, and have been, cancer free, but at that time I was diagnosed with stage 4 endometriosis. I lost my left ovary and fallopian tube to an endometiroma at that time and learned that I had another mass in my remaining right ovary.
I began dating Aaron, my future husband, a few years later. I will never forget the afternoon we sat down in his living room and I explained my condition to him.
“Before we fall all the way in love, you need to know this. It is a very real possibility that I won’t be able to have children. I didn’t choose this, but you would be. So take your time, work it out with yourself and God. Don’t think you will be OK without having biological children because you love me. If and when that wears thin, that leaves me in an awful position that I won’t be able to fix…which is my whole point here. You either make your peace with it and we move forward, or you realize that it is very important to you to have your own children and we end this before either of us gets more deeply in love, and therefore hurt.”
Our tried-and-true friendship again stood the test and Aaron really did wrestle with this possibility. Long story short, he made his peace with it and we got married about a year later. Saying yes to him is the second-best decision I have ever made (the first being to take my spirituality seriously and enter into a life-giving relationship with God.)
After getting married, we began to try to have biological children. Two surgeries and a year of infertility treatments later, we decided that door was closed. Since 2002 I have known this was a possibility, and a long time ago I made the decision to try…and to be OK with walking away from that process before it drained us financially, mentally, emotionally, and chronologically. I figure that there are already so many children who need families that it would be selfish of me to continue to spend money and life on something that wasn’t working to the point that I didn’t have anything left to give to a child or children that we could provide a home and family for.
Adding to that is this: When I was a little girl and all the other little girls were playing house and family and pretending to raise babies…I played adoption. I would arrange my dolls and stuffed animals in the “nursery” and have potential moms and dads come in and form new families. I always adopted a few myself. As my mom relates it, she has no idea where I even heard the word adoption, much less got an understanding of what it meant. I figure I was just always meant to be an adoptive mom.
We have a space in our home and we have space in our hearts, and we would like to share them with a child in need of these kinds of spaces. This is not a lightly made decision, nor do we look at this situation as some kind of consolation prize. We have love to give, and we will give that love to a child that we will consider our own. It will be an honor to take the responsibility of loving, teaching, raising, and guiding a young life. We do not believe the process will be simple or easy, but nothing really worth having comes easy. I’m excited at the prospect of being a dad. We’ve talked about adopting over the years as something we would like to do regardless of whether we had our own biological children or not, and the time feels right to begin this adventure in earnest.